Success is usually not a straight line. There are lessons to be learned along the way. And usually, as long as you learn the lessons you are meant to learn, you move onto the next level. But if you resist, you may be feeling stuck.

In your business that could mean more income, more freedom or an easier way to run your business. 

But sometimes, you may resist learning the lessons for one reason or another and there’s no easier way to staying stuck. You may be attached to certain belief structures, value systems or other false paradigms that keep you looped into the same patterns of dysfunction. It seems like you’re locked into the problem and cannot get out. It’s almost like the problem is stuck on you.

It could be overwork, it could be bringing in less income than you need to live the lifestyle you want. It could be a pattern of struggle or of  feeling unworthy of having what you want. But the thing is, if you are operating from a place of truth, running your business does not need to be so hard and life can be so much easier.

What makes it hard is your attachment to the false belief systems and structures that are keeping you stuck and your inability to let go of what’s no longer serving you. You may be so attached to your story that it has become part of your identity.

The moment this becomes a downward spiral and slippery slope is when you are attached to the story of “people doing things to you”, and you being the victim of your circumstances rather than the director of your life.

Your ego mind is likely holding on really hard, not wanting you to let go, even though letting go of the story that keeps you feeling stuck would mean dropping the dysfunction and stepping into the reality you really want more than anything else. 

If you are not willing to let go of the things that are holding you back, of collapsing the old structures and paradigms that are no longer serving you, most likely everything is going to stay the same.

New month, new year, new whatever, if you don’t change, nothing is going to change.

But there comes a time when you’re probably done. When you want to move forward and you’re sick and tired of not achieving the results you want and living the life your soul craves.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned on my journey, it’s that the biggest thing that’s holding you back is the false programming you have learned about how the world works. We’ve been taught that life happens to us, and that we don’t have a lot of control over our circumstances.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

You create your own reality, and you can shift it very quickly when you start to operate from a place of truth and learn to understand the power of your mind.

When you drop your false belief structures and start to consciously manage your thinking, you can start to create with intention instead of creating from dysfunctional subconcious programming. (One of my mentors used to say that the subconscious mind is like the garbage can of the mind – you don’t want to create your life from the garbage can, do you?)

Like Einstein said:

“Everything is frequency and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. This is not philosophy, this is physics.”

What he is really saying is;

if you continue to think the way you’ve been thinking you’ll continue to get what you’ve gotten.

If you continue to believe what you’ve been believing, you’ll continue to get what you’ve gotten. If you continue to feel the same way you’ve been feeling, you’re going to end up with the same results.

If you continue to focus your mind the way you have been focusing it, you will keep getting the same result.

Why? Because your beliefs, thoughts and feelings as well as what you focus on make up your frequency and your frequency/or vibration dictates what you get. It is EVERYTHING!

All of the false beliefs and stories are just contributing to lowering your vibration and keep status quo. In fact, there is never a status quo, life is always moving, but if you continue in the same patterns, you will create the same circumstance over and over and over again like you’re just spinning around a hamster wheel.

The key to breaking free of the pattern is to realize you are a vibrational being and that you can change your frequency to change your results.

However, in order to do this, it often requires that you to challenge belief structures and programming in your subconscious mind and your energy field. This can be a very scary process for many and it will often require you to step way out of your comfort zone. (You can read more here about what may be going on in your energy field that is creating resistance to change, and also why you fail to manifest what you want.)

The moment you change on the inside, your outside world will change along with it.

It’s really the only way to create real transformation and to heal dysfunctional patterns in your life. It doesn’t happen from the outside in. Nobody but you are creating the reality you are in, no matter how much you don’t like what you see, or how badly you want to blame someone or something. Change yourself, and your entire world will change with it.

You focus on lack – whatever it may be lack of – you will see lack in your life.

But if you are too attached to your story to let it go, then, as a result, you keep manifesting the same reality you don’t want over and over again. Has that ever happened to you despite your efforts to change?

I spoke with a lady recently who was in a really bad place in her life. She felt unloved and alone and her finances were in a very poor state with no end in sight.  But she focused so much on the lack that over and over again in our conversation she mentioned what she didn’t have and what she couldn’t do. She was on a downward spiral and didn’t know how to turn it around.

I noticed how angry she was about certain events and circumstances in her life. She was bitter at herself and others. She was bitter about the money she had spent, the money she didn’t have, she was bitter about the relationships that didn’t work out and she was just bitter about her life in general.

She knew more about the law of attraction and how it works more than most people, yet she just couldn’t seem to turn her situation around.

As I’m sure you know, it’s not about what you know or don’t know, it’s about whether or not you can get yourselves to be who you need to be at any given moment to create the results you want, not the ones you don’t. Knowing is not real knowing unless you are actually living it and seeing the results of who you are being transform into what you want.

This lady understood how the laws worked and how she created her situation. She wanted her situation badly to change, or so she said. But – she was too attached to her old story to allow herself and her situation to change. 

You cannot tell the story of “I can’t” while at the same time creating a new and better reality.

She needed a shift in consciousness, and as we continued our conversation she realized she had been playing actress in her own life instead of being the director.

As long as you think you are a victim of circumstances, you are.

If you feel defeated, you are.

The moment you realize you can switch your role from being an actor to that of a director, and you can consciously choose a new reality and your life will begin to shift.

If life isn’t working the way you want it to and you keep feeling stuck in a loop, ask yourself what stories you are attached to. Who or what do you need to forgive so you can let go of the attachment to whatever it is you are holding onto that is keeping you in the same looping pattern?

By forgiving you are letting it go, and thereby opening up the space for a new reality to come forth.  New ways, feelings, beliefs, stories and of course results.

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