Over the last many years I’ve gone through deeper and deeper levels of healing and transformation. It’s triggered by my desire to step deeper into my purpose and to live in more freedom, and in order to do so, I’ve needed to deal with all of the internal obstacles that have been in the way of me living the life I want to live; in true financial, time and emotional freedom. In order to make that happen, I had to let go of my ego.

As I’m sure you already know, you are most likely your own biggest obstacle. (You’re not the only one, I promise!) You can give a success-recipe to two different people and one person will go find gold, while the other one will fall on his/her face. Yes, we all need a strategy to run our business, but ultimately your mindset and consciousness account for more than 90% of the results you get.

Your programming, that you mostly received before the age of 7 years-old operates on auto-pilot inside your mind, and it’s creating your results, or lack thereof, on auto-pilot as well. It’s mostly unconscious.

But as you become aware of what’s working or what’s not working in your life and business, you may see how our own beliefs, thoughts and judgments are self-fulfilling prophecies, creating the same result over and over again. If you’re getting what you want, then great, you can keep doing what you’re doing. But if the results are not what you want, then likely there are some things inside of you you may need to bring light to, change and heal.

I’ve found it very important to separate the voices of the soul from the voices of the ego. Your soul is limitless. It is pure light with endless potential, while the ego will come up with all the reasons why you can’t, it will try to keep you from changing, and it will keep you stuck if you let it. It can literally keep you in a prison of your own judging mind!

The ego judges. It is one thing to judge others; it’s not doing you much good because judging others really is judging yourself, but it’s even worse when you blatantly judge yourself. The words you tell yourself can be a lot more evil than the words you’d dare use about others. And if your words are not kind, they are not contributing to your life, they are degrading you, tearing apart your confidence. Like a mean bully inside your own head, meaner than any other person could ever be, it could be haunting you 24/7 if you let it.

Any voices that keep telling you you are not good enough; not worthy or deserving; that you cannot do something; who are you to think you could do such a thing; all the limiting voices in your head; all the voices where you judge yourself; they are all voices of the ego.

The ego will tell you what you should or shouldn’t do; it is fear based and it will limit you if you listen to it. It will keep you stuck.

Your soul, however, is true love. True potential and light. It has no limits and the voice from your soul is coming from a place of true love. You know if your ego or soul is speaking to you based on how you feel. The ego will make you feel stuck, limited and small, while the soul will make you feel expanded, it will feel lighter – like truth.

I believe that in order to have complete freedom, we need to silence the voices of our ego and live from the voices in our soul. It starts with becoming aware who is speaking inside your mind, and who you allow space and authority in your mind.

If you let your ego rule, chances are you will be in a constant fight with yourself. Your soul will tell you to do one thing, but your ego will tell you you can’t and you’ll be in a battle inside your mind. That is not freedom. In fact, it’s like living in constant stress, indecision and fear. You may decide to do one thing one day listening to your soul, but then changing your mind the next day because your ego got a hold of you.

I see a lot of business owners running in this cycle of changing their minds. Changing their niche, or messaging constantly while questioning their inner guidance. It’s a self-sabotaging cycle that will keep throwing you off track if you let it.

Silence the voice of your ego and listen to the whispers of your soul.

So how do you get out of it? I believe it’s a process. It would be nice if we could push a button and have it all change instantly.  Nevertheless, it starts with making a decision to not let your ego run your life. Then you need to take inventory of who’s running your mind and take charge when needed, even when it’s scary. Because your soul might just tell you to do something you don’t know how to do.

Learning to tune into your inner guidance on a daily basis is the best way I know. Silence your mind. Get quiet. Meditate.

You have approximately 60,000 thoughts going through your mind on average every day.

Many of these thoughts are repetitive – the same messages running like a broken record. Rather than battling your ego, by silencing the mind, you will give space for your soul to bring forth the messages you need to hear. If your mind is cluttered, chances are you will not be able to hear the whispers of your soul.

Trust that the guidance you receive is real. Feel into the essence of how it feels. You will know if the ego is speaking because you will feel limited, small and constricted. Make a commitment to yourself to chose to live from a place of your soul; a place of love and expansion, rather than the limited place of your ego, which is fear-based.

Love will heal any fear, so loving yourself more will help you get more in tune with your soul. Fear and love cannot live in the same space because they are at a very different vibration.

Choose to love yourself enough to let your soul guide you and you will soon see your life becoming much more expansive as the limits of your ego are slowly erased as you tune into living from the wisdom of your soul.

In fact, when you learn to live from your soul, you will realize that the limits your ego were illusions, and that you can live from a place of being unlimited – from soul.