Want to reach your goal quickly?

Have you ever set out to reach a goal and do something you really wanted and after you clearly made the decision to do it, you start to backtrack…wondering if you really should do it and if you made the wrong decision?

As Napoleon Hill said: “Successful people make decisions quickly (as soon as all the facts are available) and change them very slowly (if ever). Unsuccessful people make decisions very slowly, and change them often and quickly.”

If making decisions quickly and changing them slowly or not at all, is key to success, why do so many people not follow through on their decisions and reach their goals?

The answer can be summed up as subconscious fears and self-sabotage.

I see this with my clients ALL the time and I see it within myself.

I recently made one of the biggest one-time investments ever (except for buying a home). I knew that I really wanted to make this investment. There was no doubt. However, when it came to wiring the money, I came up with all kinds of reasons why I should wait. Instead, I started doing other, not very productive tasks to keep me busy so I didn’t have to do what I really should be doing, which would be wiring the money so I could finish what I started and had decided to do.

My subconscious mind was playing tricks with me. Making me procrastinate on the very thing I knew I wanted and the thing that was going to help me reach my goal.

Why would it do such a thing? Because the subconscious mind doesn’t like change. Even good change. To the subconscious mind, any change, especially those changes that will help change your life in a positive direction, is terrifying to the subconscious mind.

The subconscious mind is designed to keep you safe and alive. To the subconscious mind, you are now alive, which means you are safe, but any change, in the eyes of your subconscious means danger – even when these changes are designed to transform your life for the better.

The subconscious prefers that you sit in a cold, dark cage, to going out of the cave to enjoy the freedom, sunshine and warmth.

This is because in the old days, when you actually lived in a cave, any change could mean that you would get killed. Walking out of the cave could mean a wild animal would eat you.

But reaching your goals won’t kill you…

However, the subconscious mind doesn’t have the ability to reason. It operates on programming and it’s programmed that “any change = danger”.

The subconscious mind doesn’t have the ability to reason. It operates on programming and it’s programmed that “any change = danger”.

And with the subconscious mind being 30,000 times more powerful than your conscious mind, it tends to win – unless you decide it’s NOT going to.

This is so key to understand if you want to be successful and create change and transformation in your life and business, because any time you set out to do something big in order to better yourself, to reach your goals, to go for your dreams, to make more money, the subconscious mind is going to come up with ways to try to stop you.  

It’s simply how we are wired as humans.

The subconscious mind knows you very well and knows exactly what to do to distract you, confuse you, delay you or trying to convince you that you made the wrong decision in the first place… It might even create real-life circumstances designed to stop you.

It will operate in insidious ways that can often be behind most people’s awareness and comprehension, such as:

People you know may get sick or even die.

You or someone you love all of a sudden get into an accident.

Your computer breaks down.

Your car breaks down.

Your phone stops working.

You get sick.

All of these events are designed by your subconscious mind to get your attention away from what you were doing, so you can be distracted and not do what you said you were going to do. They are designed to STOP you!

You will be fully convinced that stopping truly is the right thing to do. And you will think this is your conscious decision, but it’s really the subconscious mind messing with you and convincing you to stop. However, nothing may be able to convince you of that in this moment.

You’re being manipulated and played by your own subconscious mind, and it’s doing such a great job at camouflaging what it’s doing that you think you’re in “full control” and making a conscious decision, when really you’re a puppet to your subconscious mind…

I can attest that I’ve had all of the above happen to me in periods of serious up-level. In fact, the day after I started my coach training, my mom passed away.

I could have easily told myself: “Now’s not the time to do this coach training…”

When I signed up with a high-end coach years ago – and being terrified of the commitment and investment, both my phone and my car broke down the very moment when I was about to give her the credit card payment over the phone. (I didn’t let this stop me from moving forward though, because I was aware of how this works – which is key to changing this pattern.)

Someone dies and you need to attend to that, go to the funeral, grieve, help out…

Someone you love get into an accident and of you need to be there for them instead of moving forward…

Your computer breaks down, preventing you from doing what you needed to do…or maybe you now need to buy a new computer, and the money you had set aside is no longer available…

Your phone stops working, so you can’t call or communicate the way you need to move forward with your commitment…

You get sick…this will likely slow you down from forward action, at least momentarily.

Whatever scenario is pretty much guaranteed to get you to stop is what your subconscious mind will create. It knows you too well and uses all it’s might to “protect” you from it’s perceived danger – even though you and I know consciously that the danger is not real.

So you start to doubt yourself. Wonder if you made the right decisions. You feel confused. Maybe you see the subconscious’ attempt to stop you as a sign from the Universe that you shouldn’t do this? And if you don’t know how the subconscious mind works, that’s likely what you will think.

Of course, you’re probably not even thinking about your subconscious mind at this point, you just notice what happens…

Then, you stop. You decide that maybe this wasn’t such a good idea after all. And now you even have a list of reasons that you believe 100% for why you should not do it…

You might think that these things are just “coincidences” and that next time you set out to achieve your goals, it will go all smoothly and maybe you just blame it on poor timing…

You may have experienced this: Every time you tried to do X, something happened to stop you. So you thought it “wasn’t meant to be” and decided not to do it…

Where has your subconscious mind stopped you like this in the past? I want you to stop for a moment, and really think about this.

If you’re not where you want to be, either in your business, financially or related to any other goal you might have, I am willing to bet it’s because at some point your subconscious mind convinced you to stop.

The key to transform this is to decide that next time, NOTHING is going to stop me!

The secret to transform this pattern is how you respond. Next time you set a goal, ask yourself what would stop you from doing it. Decide to stay the course and don’t change your decision no matter what obstacles get in the way.

Remember what Napoleon said…After all, he interviewed over 500 of the worlds most successful people and found the keys that made them successful. Changing their minds is NOT one of those traits!

You need to move through the fear and subconscious sabotage, because this will be what opens the door for your success.

The key is to move through the fear, because this will be what opens the door for your success.

Facing your biggest fears is like training a new muscle. It’s hard in the beginning, but then as you do it more often, you realize it’s actually not so bad.

Stay on your current path and move forward no matter what obstacle you’re faced with.

Think of it as a test from the Universe: “Is she brave enough to walk through this door? If so, we’re going to reward her by giving her what she wants…”

Now, because I see this with clients all the time (and my own experiences too) I always know when the subconscious is starting to play tricks with me.

So let’s go back to what I was telling you about my procrastination over making my large investment…

I didn’t procrastinate very long this time. Having missed the cutoff time for the wire on the first day, sending the wire was the number one priority on my to do list for the next day.

However, as I was getting ready to do it I started feeling sick to my stomach. Like I could be throwing up. I was filled with gut-wrenching fear.

It’s uncomfortable to grow and expand, but the secret here is you must feel the fear and do it anyway. So I went ahead and did it. I wired the money.

Doing that actually allowed me to make a huge goal I had set for myself, much faster than I had ever imagined possible.

Even if you’re literally going to throw up from fear, the key to success is to move forward anyways. Once you move through it, the fear will subside, and you will break through to a new level of success, realizing that the fear truly was an illusion!

I’ve learned to use fear as a barometer for success. The more fearful I am about following through on a decision on something I know I want, the more likely I know it is that this decision is going to have a huge positive impact on my life.

The times I’ve been paralyzed by fear but followed through anyway have been the most life-transforming events of my life.

It is in this moment it’s important to have a coach who understands what’s going on and can handle the situation appropriately and steer you in the right direction. Starting to backtrack at this moment is just going to get you back to square one. You need to walk through it.

And your subconscious mind will have you SO convinced that you need to stop that you don’t even have any doubts about your new decision. You will have all kinds of very logical reasons to stop…but if you let those reasons stop you, you’re not going to break through… and you probably won’t get what you really want.

This is how you grow and expand. That, my friend, is a big part of why you are here; to overcome your fears. Yes, my dear, it may be terrifying and feel like you’re going to faint, but it will remove obstacles out of your way and give you what you really want. It takes courage to succeed and get what you really want but it’s always worth it.

If you’ve read this far, you might also want to read this article: Forgiveness: How to stop recreating your future from your past and set yourself free.

It’s time to step out of that dark cage and go find your freedom!

Feel like you could use some help up-leveling in your business and get out of your own way so you can create the income and lifestyle you really want? I invite you to take the first step by getting a free copy of my Success-soul® Living Starter Kit.