Should. It’s a word that you may hear in your mind daily. I should do this I should do that…

Says who? Where is that voice coming from and why should you really? Is it your mom’s voice? Your dad? Your teacher? Your partner? Your friends?

We live in a society filled with people whose lives are based on what they “should” do rather than what makes them happy. And so many people are miserable because of it.

They are looking for all kinds of answers outside of themselves and they forget to look within, where all the answers reside.

Seriously, I see this all over the business world too. I should do this, I should do that or I don’t get clients, make money etc.

But really. Should you?

I want to challenge you to stop should-ing so much and start following the desires and cravings of your heart and soul instead.

If you are listening to the “shoulds” you are likely blocking your intuitive messages that are guiding you to stay on track and on purpose in life.

When I started my coaching business a few years ago, I was finally determined to do work I was passionate about and live my purpose.

I was coaching with several of the gurus to learn all the ins and outs of the business and as a result, I started believing more in the gurus than I did in my own inner guidance.

As a result, I slowly started getting off track– again! I was stuck in the limiting beliefs that if I wanted a successful business I “should” do it this or that way, and I forgot to check in with my deepest core to see if that really felt right.

Running your business from your ego will keep you stuck and small. Listen to your soul instead.

Coming out of burn out, the last thing I wanted to do was working my butt off. And I knew there had to be a better way than what people were telling me I should do. I became obsessed with finding a better way.

Since my early days of coaching, I’ve gone full circle. I’ve had to challenge my deepest beliefs about how things really work and about who I really am. About what you need to do and who you need to be to have the life and business you truly want, not just the one you think you can have.

Here are some of my biggest lessons:

• There is no cookie-cutter step-by step system that will work for everyone. 95% of your results are based on who you are, your thoughts and subconscious beliefs, not what you do. If you are not being who you need to be, it doesn’t matter what kind of action you take, you will not get the results you want.

• If you have the desire, you can do it, no matter what other people tell you is possible. Stop listening to others and listen to your own heart and intuition. It’s the best GPS you could ever have. It will never get you off track but lead you to opportunities you could never figure out logically, but which will lead you to exactly what you want/need.

• You don’t have to cut off from being all that you are. You can create a business that encompasses all the pieces of you and allows you to be fully you in all areas of your life. You don’t have to live in compartments. In fact, when you become who you truly were meant to be in all areas of your life, everything you want will come to you with ease because you are living in alignment with your truth.

• Running your business from your ego will just keep you stuck. The ego doesn’t want you to grow, the ego comes from fear and will derail you in any efforts of becoming more of who you truly are. The ego will hold you back. It will tell you you are not good enough, you are not experienced enough, it will create a story based on fear that will limit your ability to grow and expand into who you need to be to have what you want. The ego is the big judge who loves to criticize. Once you let go of your ego, you can run your business from a place of love. From that place anything is possible.

• You need decide you will have what you want. Take a stand for yourself and declare it. I will have/be/do….(x,y,z). Stop wishing and act as if you already have it. Seriously. This is a must!

• Stop should’ing yourself. Get clear on what you want. Feel into what you are doing/being/having in your life right now that is not in alignment with what you want. Shed it. Let go of anything that no longer serves you. Start moving in the direction of your dreams and stop saying the world “I should”. There is no freedom in the word should, only duty. Stop being the martyr and admit to yourself you can and will have the life and business you really want. You deserve it. Stop listening to anyone who says you can’t, they are just reflecting their own limiting beliefs onto you.

• If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. If it doesn’t give you joy, then I invite you to stop doing it. Instead, tap into your inspiration and passion and take action where you are inspired to do so. Remember, most of your results come not from action but from who you are being. You are vibrating energy in action.  If you are joyful in what you give out, you will also attract more things that will make you feel good. And, remember, life doesn’t need to be a struggle! You get to create it the way you want.

If you are ready to take the next step in your business and create a business that feeds your soul and your bank account, I invite you to download my free Success-soul®Living Starter Kit. and step into your greatness now.

You’ll receive resources to get super clear on your vision, super charge your new life and healing to let go of some of the most common beliefs that are holding you back from being all that you can be.